We all want a magical and perfect Christmas. Unfortunately not every moment is going to be perfect though, and that’s ok!
Remember to be present and accept every moment. Accept all that is happening within and around you. Accept your child, just as they are, in this moment. Accept the way things are, not how we think they should be.
All that is left is the present moment and then we can truly experience the joy of Christmas!
Try not to put too much pressure on yourself, and on your children.
Routines have mostly gone out the window and emotions are running high with the extra sensory stimulation.
You know your child better than anyone, so be mindful of the things that might be overwhelming;
Lots of people, strangers, lots of noise. bright lights, different smells, different tastes and the change in routine.
Try to maintain a consistent routine for your child in-between the special occasions, and late nights. If you try to keep things predictable and consistent it will help them feel safe and secure. Tell your children what is going to happen next, so they will feel in control and prepared.
Set aside some time each day to just “be” with your children to connect.
Resist the urge to report to Santa
It’s tempting to play the Santa card when our children are not doing as we ask, but it’s an easy fix. It might work in the moment but the good versus bad can be stressful and damaging to our children’s self esteem.
As we’ve said before, a child who is frequently told they are bad or naughty will eventually believe it, and behave that way. Click here to find out more
We also don’t want to reinforce the idea that we behave well only because we’re going to get something in return, rather than because it’s the right thing to do. Let’s focus on connection and encouragement.
Encourage your child to use their manners and discuss what a polite and appropriate greeting might look like. But respect your child’s right to say no, to express discomfort, and to approach social situations at their own pace. Some children take longer to warm up than others. After all, some of us grown ups do too!
We wish you a very happy Christmas, and remember to Sprinkle happiness wherever you go…